Why You Shouldn’t Homeschool Your Kids

Let’s get one thing straight – because I know some of you are homeschool parents who clicked on this post and are seething right now.  

I am not anti-homeschooling.  

I was homeschooled for a couple years growing up and loved it. My best friend was homeschooled through middle school. My husband was homeschooled his entire academic life until college. I’m strongly considering homeschooling my own children.  

So why this post about why parents shouldn’t homeschool their kids?  

One of my many childcare related jobs at the moment is caring for the younger siblings of children in a local homeschool group when they meet once a week. My two youngest brothers-in-law [see here this great review they helped me out with!] are part of another local chapter, and sometimes I go with them and sit in on classes. It’s a good program, and I see a lot of children learning and thriving in it.  

But I also notice a lot of children – far too many – who are way behind and struggling. Does this have to do with the program? I don’t think so. The environment? No.  

This is what is happening:  

Parents don’t realize how much work homeschooling really is.  

This post is for anyone. If you happen to be part of a homeschool community, it may be something you want to share around. And I applaud those of you who are putting in the effort to make sure your children get a quality education.  

But I am addressing this post, and the title, to those parents that belong to a particular subset of the homeschool community.  

The lazy parents.  

Homeschooling is tough. There are currently a lot of parents complaining about the amount of homework they have to help their kids with (Source: Babble). Homeschooling is like regular school and homework all combined that the parents have to be in charge of. It’s a lot of effort.  

But if you aren’t willing to put that much effort into your child’s education, you’re better off sending them to school and letting someone else take care of it.  

I firmly believe that homeschooling has the power to be a more enriching experience than public or even private school. You can choose the curriculum you teach, the extracurricular activities, the electives. You get to tailor an entire education program to your children.  

Unfortunately, I don’t see enough homeschooling parents taking advantage of this opportunity.  

This puts their children at a disadvantage early in life that is difficult to overcome later on. Foundational education is so important.  

You know what else is important?  

Social interaction.  

I know, this is a common complaint towards homeschool parents. And often it’s ungrounded. If you have socially thriving children with friends and interpersonal activities, great! This rant is not lodged at you.  

My mother-in-law (who has homeschooled six children), likes to say that socialization has to be taught to homeschooled kids like any other subject. A lot of parents get so caught up with making sure their children are getting their academic work done that they don’t realize how much important life learning is taught through peer-to-peer interaction (Source: Simple Psychology).  

If you as a homeschool parent are not willing or able to give your child multiple opportunities for social interaction throughout the week, you are better off sending your child to school.  

Well-developed social skills are crucial for adulthood and a career. Learning how to communicate with peers, work as a team, share and compromise… all of these things have lasting impacts for any future job. Neglecting this area of a child’s education puts them at a very unnecessary disadvantage. (Source: SDED Synergy

Before you get worked up, read the post. You may actually find that you agree with these two compelling reasons why you shouldn't homeschool your kids. | Mom but not a Mom 

So to recap, you should NOT homeschool your children if you are not willing or able to put in the work to ensure that are taught all of the necessary academic subjects thoroughly, and are able to meet developmental milestones within reason.  

You should NOT homeschool your children if you are not willing or able to provide them with plenty of opportunities (read: more than once a week) to exercise their social skills and interact with other children their own age.  

Be responsible parents. Start your kids off right.  

 

What are your thoughts on homeschooling? Parents of homeschoolers, how do you make sure your children are on track academically and get plenty of socialization?

8 thoughts on “Why You Shouldn’t Homeschool Your Kids

  1. “But I also notice a lot of children – far too many – who are way behind”

    Way behind who?

    “Homeschooling is like regular school and homework all combined that the parents have to be in charge of. It’s a lot of effort. ”

    If you think this, you may as well send your children to school.

    On socialization – clueless again, so is your mil

    So to recap, you should study to be approved, a good place to start is Charlotte Mason’s series. Babysitting homeschooled children and observing a class is not enough.

    1. If you had read carefully, you would have noticed that I was also homeschooled for part of my life. I live in a house where all of the children are homeschooled, so I see it everyday and help them with the work. I’m quite familiar with homoschooling – the practice, the reasons behind it, the different methods and types.

      You are free to disagree with me, but calling me clueless and ignorant is not proving your case, whatever that is.

      Thank you for reading my article, despite your disrespect.

  2. I’m sorry if you are offended, Dawn but I did not write that you are ignorant, just clueless on socialization… and please notice the word *on* before socialization [of homeschooled children].

    It is obvious to me and anyone else who has studied homeschooling philosophy, practice and methods that you are not “quite familiar”. Sorry, it’s true.

    Again, I suggest you check out Charlotte Mason’s stuff

    1. I did check out Charlotte Mason’s stuff, as per your request. I also had a long discussion with someone who is familiar with her work. She seems like a very wise woman who had a lot of good ideas with regards to education of the whole child, which is exactly what I am talking about in my post.

      First of all, you should be aware that not all homeschool parents choose to do so for the same reasons that you did. There are many MANY reasons parents decide to homeschool their kids, and a lot of them have nothing to do with Charlotte Mason.

      I’m not offended by your comments, merely confused. Part of crafting a good argument is tying your evidence into your point. Suggesting that I check out Charlotte Mason’s work, while informative, told me nothing of why you disagree with my post. In all my research into her, I have yet to find anything that suggests that children should not receive a good education or that they should not be regularly involved in interpersonal activities. If you know of a place in which she objects, and has good reason for such objection, please point me to it with a link or title.

  3. Great read Dawn! I’ve thought about homeschooling my kids and I wish I could but I don’t have the mental stamina and energy level that my kids do. We are blessed to live in a great city with an amazing school district. I supplement their learning with activities and crafts whenever I can but I get easily overwhelmed with everything else that’s on my plate. Thanks for the advice! Now I don’t feel so guilty!

    1. I’m so glad my post was helpful to you. 🙂 There are plenty of good options for kids to get a quality education, and homeschool is just one of them. It sounds like your kids are getting a great experience both at home and at school.

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts!

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