While this is first and foremost a parenting blog, I can’t help but stand up for my fellow daycare teachers every once in a while now that I have the platform. I previously wrote a post on 10 Things Your Child’s Daycare Teacher Wants You to Know. Today, I’m back with more insight into the minds of daycare teachers across the country.
Teaching little kids is usually a joy, but there are a few things parents can say that will ruin a teacher’s day real fast.
If you’re the parent of a child in daycare, here are nine things your child’s teachers dread hearing.
My child isn’t feeling well, but he isn’t running a fever.
There are two ways this can go.
A) Your child will not run a fever, but will be miserable all day. You don’t have to experience the guilt because your child is out of sight, but we have to care for a sick child who doesn’t want to be running around outside and playing because he doesn’t feel well. There will be tears, grumpiness, and meltdowns. On top of what we normally deal with on an everyday basis.
B) Your child will start running a fever within a couple hours, and we have to call you to come pick him up. You are then angry because your day got interrupted.
Please, if your child is sick, keep him home. Or send him to stay with his grandparents for the day. We understand it isn’t convenient. Kids get sick a lot. That’s part of building up their immune system. But when you bring your sick child to school, you’re passing on the sickness so that all the other parents get put in the same situation.
How did my child get this injury?
This might actually be the worst one on the list for me. I know teachers who were fired from their daycare job because a kid got injured in their care, and she didn’t know what happened. Here is the reality:
With ten+ kids running around on a playground, we can’t always keep track of every boo boo. We’re supposed to, and we definitely try, but that’s a big job to ask. If we didn’t see the injury happen, or if the child didn’t come up to us crying about it, it might not be noticed.
I understand if your child has a big bump on their head, or a major cut or bruise. But if your kid scraped his knee, chances are they fell on the sidewalk, got up, and kept running. Please don’t penalize us for every little booboo.
Who bit my kid?
We’re not allowed to tell you. It’s daycare policy to protect the children from getting a particular stigma attached to them. Kids bite each other – it happens. Almost every child tries out biting at least once or twice. Your kid included.
Don’t get mad at us for not naming the biter. It’s not up to us anyways.
My child doesn’t seem to nap well in your class.
Thank you for piling on the guilt. Naptime is the time of day when daycare teachers work the absolute hardest.
Picture a roomful of grumpy children who don’t think they’re tired. None of them want to lie down and go to sleep. Half of them are melting down at the thought, and half of them are running crazy circles around the room, stimulated by nervous energy. It’s a win if we can get everyone on their own cot.
Some children nap better at daycare, for some reason. Some children don’t. We try very hard to provide a calm, quiet environment for your child to sleep in. But sometimes, it’s out of our control. We’re sorry.
We’re switching back to pull-ups.
To be fair, some daycare teachers might welcome this sentence. But a lot of them would agree with me – it’s better to get potty training over and done with. Wiffle-waffling just prolongs the agony.
What happens when you switch back to pull-ups is that it slows the progress that was being made, and forces us to go through the whole process again in a month or two.
Once you decide that your child is ready to potty-train – GO FOR IT!
What happened to Babyboo’s shorts?
This is another guilt-inducing sentence we hear a lot. The word “shorts” could be substituted with “pacifier”, “hairbow”, or any number of other odd items that get brought to daycare and assimilated into the collection. Children lose things, throw things, and hide things. Sometimes their own, sometimes others’.
We do try to keep track of everything by putting personal items into cubbies, but not everything always makes it in. Be patient with us, as we’re on the lookout for your child’s items.
My best suggestion is that if you bring extra clothes for your child to keep at daycare, don’t be sending your favourite outfits. Send that ugly sweater grandma got her for Christmas, and those leggings that don’t match anything else at home. That way, if they do happen to go missing, it’s not a great loss.
That doesn’t look very safe.
Daycares are obsessively safe. You have no idea how many safety rules we have to constantly observe. If you are concerned that your child is not safe at daycare, chances are, you are a helicopter parent and need to take a deep breath and let your child go a little.
What I dislike most about this sentence is that if authorities get wind of it, it often results in another rule for us to follow. On top of the 1001 other rules we’re already trying to keep straight.
Can I make cupcakes for Babyboo’s birthday?
This one just makes me sad. One of those 1001 rules is that outside food can’t be brought in for everyone to have unless it is pre-made and the nutrition and ingredients labels are on it. It breaks my heart every time a parent asks if they can bring in a homemade cake or pie for their child’s birthday, and I have to tell them no.
The good news is, you can go to Publix and pick up their bakery made cupcakes and bring those. 🙂
We’re moving away.
This is another heart breaker. I’m not saying you should never say it, because obviously circumstances dictate when you have to move. But it is something we as teachers dread hearing, especially when we’re particularly attached to a child (which happens ALL THE TIME).
I still get sad thinking about some of the kids who moved away during my time as a daycare teacher. We love the children in our care, and wish we could always be a part of their lives.